Communication can be the key to all relationships, we all know how to talk but to do so in an assertive way can be difficult for us all, depending on our background, we may end up as aggressive or passive or passive agressive some times we can switch between all three.

When we are passive we are saying my rights do not matter and yours do, we do this for a quiet life, we do it to avoid confrontation, but it is no good for our own well being, as we end up feeling very suppressed and the longer it goes on, the more we are unable to communicate in a constructive manner. You give away all your own personal power to another individual

When we are being aggressive we are say that i am a winner and you are going to lose this , as my needs are more important than yours, this is harmful to both parties as you end up hurting your self and the other person involved at the other end of the aggression also ends up hurting.

Passive aggressive is when we really wish to do some thing but cannot find the strength to tell another of our needs so we may end up using sarcasm, for example we may ask the husband if he would like to come shopping with us, giving him an opt out, then he would say no and we would say ok i will go on my own don't worry about it, I will manage on my own.

In all three examples above no one is getting there needs met, this is when we learn how to be assertive when some one is being aggressive with us, we can say we understand there issue and why they are upset and that we can sort some thing out between us to come to a resolution in this way the person on the other end is being listened too and you are acknowledging that their rights are just as important as theirs.

It is vital that every one in your life has their needs met including you, some times it is hard to make yourself heard when you are not used to and feel difficult with confrontation, i know this is a subject that affects many and that is why i have shared this with you today.


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संगच्छध्वं - Let's move together !!