This IS Management

This IS Management

Take A Leap Of Faith

Take A Leap Of Faith

 Remember BELL has No SOUND Till Someone RINGS it. SONG has No TUNE Till Someone SINGS it. So never Hide your FEELINGS,Unexpressed & unspoken words  have no effect at all .Be not Shy in expressing your Feelings to Loved ones if U want Relationships to be practically stable, no body has the time to read your mind "whether you love or hate him"?
Never take any thing for granted ,every relationship once made has to be nurtured with regular connect and appreciations ,howsoever deep or close that may be !

   Communication can be the key to all relationships, we all know how to talk but to do so in an assertive way can be difficult for us all, depending on our background, we may end up as aggressive or passive or passive agressive some times we can switch between all three.

When we are passive we are saying my rights do not matter and yours do, we do this for a quiet life, we do it to avoid confrontation, but it is no good for our own well being, as we end up feeling very suppressed and the longer it goes on, the more we are unable to communicate in a constructive manner. You give away all your own personal power to another individual

When we are being aggressive we are say that i am a winner and you are going to lose this , as my needs are more important than yours, this is harmful to both parties as you end up hurting your self and the other person involved at the other end of the aggression also ends up hurting.

Passive aggressive is when we really wish to do some thing but cannot find the strength to tell another of our needs so we may end up using sarcasm, for example we may ask the husband if he would like to come shopping with us, giving him an opt out, then he would say no and we would say ok i will go on my own don't worry about it, I will manage on my own.

In all three examples above no one is getting there needs met, this is when we learn how to be assertive when some one is being aggressive with us, we can say we understand there issue and why they are upset and that we can sort some thing out between us to come to a resolution in this way the person on the other end is being listened too and you are acknowledging that their rights are just as important as theirs.

It is vital that every one in your life has their needs met including you, some times it is hard to make yourself heard when you are not used to and feel difficult with confrontation, i know this is a subject that affects many and that is why i have shared this with you today.


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संगच्छध्वं - Let's move together !!

THIS IS TOO SHALL PASS
- Excellent Message. Understand Deeply.

Once a king called upon all of his wise men and asked them, ” Is there
a mantra or suggestion which works in every situation, in every
circumstances, in every place and in every time. In every joy, every
sorrow, every defeat and every victory? One answer for all questions?
Something which can help me when none of you is available to advise
me? Tell me is there any mantra?”

All the wise men were puzzled by the King’s question. They thought and
thought. After a lengthy discussion, an old man suggested something
which appealed to all of them. They went to the king and gave him
something written on paper, with a condition that the king was not to
see it out of curiosity.

Only in extreme danger, when the King finds himself alone and there
seems to be no way, only then he can see it. The King put the papers
under his Diamond ring.

Some time later, the neighbors attacked the Kingdom. King and his army
fought bravely but lost the battle. The King had to flee on his horse.
The enemies were following him. getting closer and closer. Suddenly
the King found himself standing at the end of the road - that road was
not going anywhere. Underneath there was a rocky valley thousand feet
deep. If he jumped into it, he would be finished…and he could not
return because it was a small road…the sound of enemy’s horses was
approaching fast. The King became restless. There seemed to be no way.

Then suddenly he saw the Diamond in his ring shining in the sun, and
he remembered the message hidden in the ring. He opened the diamond
and read the message. The message was - ” THIS TOO SHALL PASS”

The King read it . Again read it. Suddenly something struck him- Yes !
This too will pass. Only a few days ago, I was enjoying my kingdom. I
was the mightiest of all the Kings. Yet today, the Kingdom and all his
pleasure have gone. I am here trying to escape from enemies. Like
those days of luxuries have gone, this day of danger too will pass. A
calm came on his face. He kept standing there. The place where he was
standing was full of natural beauty. He had never known that such a
beautiful place was also a part of his Kingdom.

The revelation of the message had a great effect on him. He relaxed
and forgot about those following him. After a few minutes he realized
that the noise of the horses and the enemy coming was receding. They
moved into some other part of the mountains and were nowhere near him.

The King was very brave. He reorganized his army and fought again. He
defeated the enemy and regained his empire. When he returned to his
empire after victory, he was received with much fanfare. The whole
capital was rejoicing in the victory.

Everyone was in a festive mood. Flowers were being showered on King
from every house, from every corner. People were dancing and singing.
For a moment King said to himself,” I am one of the bravest and
greatest King. It is not easy to defeat me. With all the reception and
celebration he saw an ego emerging in him.

Suddenly the Diamond of his ring flashed in the sunlight and reminded
him of the message. He open it and read it again: “THIS TOO SHALL
PASS”.

He became silent. His face went through a total change - from the
egoist he moved to a state of utter humbleness. If this too is going
to pass, it is not yours. The defeat was not yours, the victory is not
yours. You are just a watcher. Everything passes by. We are witnesses
of all this. We are the perceivers. Life comes and goes. Happiness
comes and goes. Sorrow comes and goes.

Now as you have read this story, just sit silently and evaluate your
own life. This too will pass. Think of the moments of joy and victory
in your life. Think of the moment of Sorrow and defeat. Are they
permanent ? They all come and pass away.

Life just passes away. There is nothing permanent in this world. Every
thing changes except the law of change. Think over it from your own
perspective. You have seen all the changes. You have survived all
setbacks, all defeats and all sorrows. All have passed away. The
problems in the present, they too will pass away. Because nothing
remains forever. Joy and sorrow are the two faces of the same coin.
They both will pass away.

You are just a witness of change. Experience it, understand it, and
enjoy the present moment - this too shall pass.



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संगच्छध्वं - Let's move together !!

A young couple move into a new neighborhood. The next morning, while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her neighbor hang the wash outside.
"That laundry is not very clean", she said, "she doesn't know how to wash properly. Per...haps she needs better laundry soap".

Her husband looked on, but remained silent. Every time her neighbor would hang her wash to dry, the young woman would make... the same comments.
About one month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband: "Look! She has learned how to wash properly. I wonder who taught her this."

The husband said: "I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows!"
And so it is with life: "What we see when watching others depends on the purity of the window through which we look.

Before we give any criticism, it might be a good idea to check our state of mind and ask ourselves if we are ready to see the good rather than to be looking for something in the person we are about to judge.

A young man applied for a job as a farmhand. When the farmer asked for his qualifications, he said, “I can sleep when the wind blows.” This puzzled the farmer. But he liked the young man, and hired him.

A few days later, the farmer and his wife were awakened in the night by a violent storm. They quickly began to check things out to see if all was secure. They found that the shutters of the farmho...use had been securely fastened. A good supply of logs had been set next to the fireplace.

The young man slept soundly.

The farmer and his wife then inspected their property. They found that the farm tools had been placed in the storage shed, safe from the elements.

The tractor had been moved into the garage. The barn was properly locked. Even the animals were calm. All was well.
The farmer then understood the meaning of the young man’s words, “I can sleep when the wind blows.”

Because the farmhand did his work loyally and faithfully when the skies were clear, he was prepared for the storm when it broke. So when the wind blew, he was not afraid. He could sleep in peace.